The Bahá’í Writings teach:
Backbiting quencheth the light of the heart, and extinguisheth the life of the soul. (Baha’u’llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha’u’llah, p. 265)
In a Bahá’í-inspired life coaching call tonight, we had a long talk about the effects of gossip and backbiting in a community, and what my client could do to help people understand its effects. I thought of this story – one of my son’s favorites, and mine too. Hope you find it helpful.
A woman repeated a bit of gossip about a neighbor. Within a few days the whole community knew the story. The person it concerned was deeply hurt and offended. Later the woman responsible for spreading the rumor learned that it was completely untrue. She was very sorry and went to a wise old sage to find out what she could do to repair the damage.
“Go to the marketplace,” he said, “and purchase a chicken, and have it killed. Then on your way home, pluck its feathers and drop them one by one along the road.”
Although surprised by this advice, the woman did what she was told. The next day the wise man said, “Now go and collect all those feathers you dropped yesterday and bring them back to me.
” The woman followed the same road, but to her dismay, the wind had blown the feathers all away. After searching for hours, she returned with only three in her hand. “You see,” said the old sage, “it’s easy to drop them, but it’s impossible to get them back.
So it is with gossip. It doesn’t take much to spread a rumor, but
once you do, you can never completely undo the wrong.”
What have been your experiences with gossip and backbiting? Post your comments here: